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Tales from the ScalesRachel's Previous BlogsNo 1. Introduction Sept 18th Sept 29th Oct 6th Oct 20th Nov 7th Dec 10th New Year Feb 1st Feb22 Mar 30 |
Hello.I am a chronic dieter. I have always been a dieter and my aim is not to give up this practice but rather to accept it is a part of me, a part of my life, and try to be as positive as possible about it. Oh, and tell you all about it as I go. Whenever I find a new dieting blog the first thing I want to know is how much do they actually weigh? I scan the posts, search the blogger’s profile, and scroll to the beginning, looking for any sign of numbers from the scale which I can then use to work out where they currently ‘are’. Next I want to know their height so I can form an idea of how fat or thin I imagine them to be. A touch obsessive? Voyeuristic? Perhaps, but I would bet I am not the only one who does this. In searching for those numbers (which are rarely documented) we are looking for perspective. We are looking to see who is heavier or lighter than we are before deciding whether we feel sympathy, relief, or disbelief at a person whose numbers are less favourable than our own. In our personal opinion, of course. While interesting for others, what is much more important than the actual numbers to me is how I feel at different weights. It doesn’t matter how many people seem to love me as I am, love me whatever my weight, think I look ‘fine’ or ‘okay’ (hardly superlative, I admit), what matters is how I feel. How I feel in my clothes, in my skin, in my head. So I will share with you my weight as I ‘feel’ it on a scale that you can use to detail your weight too. My current weight is CURVY stones, 13 lbs. I am happiest when it reduces to the lower end of curvy, approaching SLIM stones. Any lower than this is purely aspirational. Recently I have tried to accept this weight as my ‘normal’, as if this is my body’s set weight, and aim only to maintain (only?!) but the truth is I am not comfortable at this weight. I am very short and every pound counts. You can quote me on this in the future, but for the record, I would feel fantastic if I reached curvy stones zero pounds and this is my ultimate mission in the medium or long term. Meanwhile I am concentrating on an initial target of curvy stones seven pounds which would be a huge achievement. I’m not far from dumpy at present but I’m hoping that by blogging here I will be held accountable for my actions and motivated to stick with my eating plan of the moment. I never lose hope that the next thing I try will be the thing that works for me and who knows, this could be it! See you next time. Rachel x |
I was about to report that the scales had not budged this week until I stepped on them this morning. They had moved. In the wrong direction. I was disappointed by this but in reality, I knew it was precisely what I deserved: the new start I had envisaged was no great shakes. Pretty much nothing changed last week, except of course, my weight. That brings me to Dumpy stones 1 lb. A rise of 2 lbs. It should be just that and signify nothing more than a rise of 2 lbs yet it is different. When the 2lbs trips the scale from curvy to dumpy, changing that first number, it seems much more significant. Behind the new numbers lies a psychological message that a new line has been crossed and things are moving in the wrong direction. Today I am going to make a change though. I am going to change my response to that number on the scales. I feel many things when I reach ‘dumpy’ and one of them is panic. The feeling of being out of control leads me down one of two paths. Either I hate the world and everything in it and console myself with scones and biscuits. I know this compounds the problem but right now, I. Don’t. Care. Do I? My other reaction is only slightly more sensible. I feel the need to sort it out, sort out those numbers on the scale, preferably in the next two minutes. So, I embark on a strict regime of meal replacement bars (that lasts about 18 hours) or a protein only diet (which I can tolerate for about 36 hours before I need, yes need, a biscuit) and both of these methods ‘cheat off’ a quick couple of pounds in their own way. Using meal replacements means there is less inside to contribute to weight in the short term. (Two big cereal bars weigh less than a melon or a plateful of broccoli after all.) The egg, cold meat and yoghurt diet (my version of high protein) causes water loss that I can actually feel and means then I think I look slimmer. I don’t like being in the ‘dumpy’ bracket. In the mirror I decide I definitely look fatter than yesterday. My clothes suddenly all feel tight. Some of this must be in my mind but there is a difference in my tops. I’m of the belief that baggy clothes make me look bigger so I wear fitted (albeit stretchy) tops (I’ve avoided buttons for many years). As my weight goes up, so my tops start to rise too. It’s not noticeable standing still in front of the mirror but as soon as I move, my top rises up. It looks baggy above my bust, stretched over my stomach and ill fitting at the shoulders. It’s uncomfortable and irritating. I spend the day pulling it back down, encouraging it to contain me, and each time I do so I become annoyed. Annoyed at the top and annoyed that I’ve been reliant on the lycra to shield me from the truth: the top is too small. Despite this, today I recognise weight management is a marathon rather than a sprint. I’m in it for the long haul and will not react with an unsustainable emergency measure, restricting in the extreme until the rebound kicks in. I’m going to keep my head and try to be sensible about it. I’ve put on 2 lbs. The roof has not caved in and no one has died. Today I will respond appropriately. I will eat a little less of the wrong things and make better choices at meal times. I might even try to move a little more and hope that next week I also have the result I deserve on the scales. |
I checked my emails and previous blogs just to confirm I had never, at any point, promised this would be a ‘weight loss’ blog. Indeed I had not but that is small consolation given my hope that accountability to the blogosphere would help me shed the pounds. Once again I have not lost weight this week and now stand at Dumpy stones 1.5 lbs, just for the record. I’m disappointed at the admittedly small gain, but terrified of the developing trend. I’m also worried that I can gain weight when I have not had a particularly bad week. I’ve had no binges and no social events involving lots of food. A pretty normal week in fact. And while I haven’t strictly dieted per se, I have eaten to hunger most days and I am demoralised that my perception of ‘normal eating’ causes a weight gain. My ‘normal’ must be too much. Looked for some extra support, I joined a closed forum online for members of my slimming club. It proved to be very helpful; a good helping of inspiration and realism. Many members use the forum to record what they eat on a daily basis. This gives them accountability and shares good food ideas between group members. I was so fascinated by it I thought I might post one day of my eating here, for you, but at present I’m too embarrassed to do so (and it may use up most of the word count). The members admitted to an item at breakfast: a bagel, a bowl of cereal, a yoghurt and fruit. Lunches were small with few items (I’m just realising that I like to have many items as I write this!) and some counted their ‘large scone with butter and jam’ at mid morning, as their lunch, by way of immediate compensation. There was general reporting of a healthy dinner: a protein portion, a small amount of carbs and a lot of vegetables. The snacks were few and far between. One bag of crisps, or one biscuit, or one hot chocolate. (Three different people, each having one snack per day.) Any additional snacks were fruit. My own days compare unfavourably. Mine are typically littered with biscuits and cups of tea. My eating is careless, revolving around what I fancy from what is available, and what I can be bothered to prepare, all while trying to moderate the quantity. My proper meals are trimmed back further and further until they don’t exist, because I’ve had too many nibbles and snacks. I am the polar opposite of mindful when I eat. Mindless munching of additional biscuits while the kettle boils, extra bits here and there when making up packed lunches and just having a bowl of cereal instead of dinner (which is never a good move, is never ‘just’ a bowl of cereal. When I’ve tried to track my eating or count my calories I stop after lunchtime because by then I’ve used over three-quarters of my daily allowance, mostly on biscuits and snacks. So it’s now plain to see. It’s not rocket science. I. eat. more. than. I. need. Surely I cannot be the only one who eats too many snacks? I go on holiday at the end of the week, so until then I promise myself I will write down everything I eat for the next few days, all day, until I go away. I don’t promise I’ll post them here. |
Well I’ve avoided the scales for as long as possible but today have woken up and smelt the coffee. I am Dumpy stones 5 lbs. This is a stone heavier than this time last year. I hit a new low yesterday when my largest, most generous black work trousers were difficult to do up in the morning, incredibly tight and uncomfortable all day and made me worry they would split at the seams every moment I spent sitting down in them. I do not want to buy yet bigger clothes. I must find a way that works to deal with it. WHat can I eat that will lend me control and the ability to moderate? It almost amuses me to see residual evidence of a catalogue of diets in my cupboards. There is oat bran (from Dukan days), gluten free stuff (from gluten free diet), slimfast bars (from SF diet obviously), surplus eggs, cold meat and yoghurt (low carb), green tea (6 weeks to Oh My God), miso soup (not sure which diet that was for but it was vile). There are sugar free jelly sachets, tinned fruit and snak a jacks from calorie counting plans and frozen weight watcher meals from the last assault on that. It is a design fault with diets that immediately, they make us pay so much attention to food and eating which is really the one thing we want to avoid. I see the appeal of very low calorie liquid replacement diets that remove food options from the equation altogether. Today I loaded my basket with low calorie options: melon, tomatoes, carrot sticks, soups, ryvita, tortilla wraps (to make "pizza") and some pre packed, portion controlled snacks. I lugged it all home pleased that I had so many diet friendly options. In fact having so many in stock makes it easy to forget 1. not to eat them all at once 2. no food is ‘free‘ and 3. eating more will not make me less!! I’m going to try and be sensible and rational about it. I will really try to get back into my old faithful black trousers again. Until next time. Rachel x |
The scales continue to move in the wrong direction. Ironically it seems the harder I try the more I gain weight. What is going on there I have no idea but I know for sure that now my big clothes are small and even my underwear does not fit well. I feel stressed by the approach of Christmas and a time of eating and drinking a-plenty and even more inevitable weight gain.
So, I started SlimFast today. (I have no sponsorship deals.) I know the folly of this and that I could eat nice food for the amount of calories in the bars BUT with food it doesn't stop there with me. Almost as I did with wine, I gave myself lots and lots of opportunity to control and moderate it, threatening myself by saying if I couldn't restrict it I would have to go tee total. Guess what? I finally acknowledged I couldn't restrict so I did in fact, give up completely. I am doing the same with food, having said if I couldn't lose a few pounds sensibly then I would resort to slimfast. So that's where I am.
Food replacements such as this draw a heavier, darker line at the point in time. There is no halfway, no portion elasticity, no option of another little biscuit or another slice of bread. It is 2 bars during the day (4 eating events!) and a 400 calorie meal at night. The End.
I have treated myself and bought Marks and Spencer (still no advertising deals) calorie counted meals to minimise the effort and thoughts of food as I prepare and plan what to eat for dinner.
I last did this diet two years ago before my big Christmas party. I continued it for 9 days as the carrot dangled distinctively in the distance.
I know the gains (read losses) will be short term but I'm hoping the short sharp shock will remove me from this panic zone and take me back down to the weight I never wanted to go up to.
Anyone had great success on Slimfast? I'd love some support here! Rx
ps: If an alcohol problem is eclipsing your weight issues then check out my blog www.soberisthenewrachelblack.blogspot.co.uk
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Right then. New Year. New beginnings and a clean slate. Acknowledgement that we cannot change the past but have control over the future. This year I am hoping to change things but in a measured, sensible and hopefully sustainable way. I am still dumpy stones 5 pounds (but I am grateful not to be even more given that I LOVE Christmas cake). This represents 11 pounds more than at the same time last year. Almost a stone. Certainly a dress size. I cannot allow this to continue and must reverse the tide. For the first time ever I’ve been away on holiday for New Year which has helped. Warmer climates and fewer clothes leave little room for hiding. Nor can I feign ignorance of my true weight; the visuals are apparent, true and unforgiving. On the plus side (I see the pun too), being physically removed from Christmas cake, mince pies, yule logs, and large tubs of chocolates has prevented me over eating for an extra week and further being tempted to hoover it all up (need to get rid of it before starting afresh...) to ‘prevent waste’. But not waist. I have also been able to walk more as I avoided the driving rain and plummeting temperatures of the UK. This is good for several reasons. Firstly I received a FitBit for Christmas. This is a super duper pedometer that you wear as a wrist band and is not fooled into counting non stepping movements. It’s apparently very accurate and I’ve set it to a goal of 10,000 steps per day. When this is achieved, all the lights flash and it does a buzzy, vibrating thing on my wrist which is very satisfying.
Weight-wise I am not going to make great declarations of anticipated weekly weight losses, (which I then multiply by X number of weeks to arrive at the huge possible extrapolated weight loss- is it only me who does that?). I always do this but never meet my targets and become quickly demoralised. Instead, I am planning to address my emotional and comfort related urges to over-eat. These are the root cause of nearly all of my diet woes. I am beginning by reading about cognitive behavioural therapy techniques which work by identifying the thoughts and feelings which lead to over eating, and then enabling you to modify the action you take. I guess it means getting out of the kitchen to delay eating or phoning a friend to replace the eating thoughts with others. Personally I like painting my nails (I get mad if they smudge before being fully dry) as a physical barrier to eating. Admittedly though, it does not remove the desire. I will keep an open mind and see what I learn. Please share with us some of your plans for the new year diet attack. Until next time. Rx |
The end of January is here so time to update you on my steps, walking and fitbit. |
Feb 22nd 2015 It's been over 3 weeks since I began my 100 day mission; tomorrow will see 71 on my notepad. Progress is, well, a matter of perspective.
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I am now at 47 days to go in my 100 day husband sponsored computer weight loss challenge and can report a seismic shift in tactics. |
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